Let me first mention that I am a lesbian. My fiance and I have a wonderful relationship and are very much in love, but our sex life could use a little improvement. She's I guess what you could call a "lazy" partner. I always initiate anything sexual, I use the strap-on on her, I use the toys on her ... and she seems to be happy with how I'm doing everything. She gets really wet and cums multiple times. But after I'm done with her she just like lays there and falls asleep. She doesn't even try to please me. Or sometimes I'll get her to start using the toy on me and she will still fall asleep. It makes me feel unattractive and I end up pleasing myself after she falls asleep. I've talked to her about this and she says that she can't help falling asleep. And I tell her then maybe she should do me first so that she doesn't fall asleep. She says ok, but it never goes down that way... She just is always making excuses. I'm very sexually attracted to her as well as attracted to her in every other way possible as well. I know they say that being in love makes sex good, and sometimes yes maybe it does. But not always! What should I do?
Feeling Sexually Helpless