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OUR ADVICE FOR FRIENDSIP TO THE NEXT LEVEL:
  A:  Tell him that you are into him also, just keep try ...        32%
  B:  Just forget about it, he crossed a line that shoul ...        22%
  C:  Obviously he isn't that much into you if he says h ...        23%
  D:  Give him time to come around just sit down and tal ...        23%
Total Votes: 1471


Dear Anyone,

My husband is an addict. We have been married for nearly 8 years and have 3 small children together. He is speaking with a therapist, but continues to use marijuana and drink daily. His moods are stable for days then he goes back to being a creep for a day or two. When he is nice, naturally I have no problem being with him, when he becomes mean, I want out of the marriage. With the 3 children involved it isn't as easy as "packing up and going" and in between his mean days, I get comfortable again. Mostly everyone I talk to tells me to get out as he has shoved me four times in anger during the course of the marriage, has a great temper, and can be verbally abusive to me and the children. I am not a timid woman though, and can give verbally better than I get. Virtually no one however has advised me to stay in the marriage even though I know he is a good man deep down, and the children adore their father.

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WHAT'S YOUR ADVICE?

Vote for Option A   
A:  Think of the children, his example is not a good one for them to follow, you have to leave.
Vote for Option B   
B:  Think of the children, they need their father no matter how he behaves, deal with it and stay.
Vote for Option C   
C:  While he is certainly worthy of love, he is an addict and always will be, if he is refusing to stop then you have to take the children and go.
Vote for Option D   
D:  Join Al-Anon or another program to help you deal with HIS addiction until the children are older, and get therapy for them to help them cope.

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