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OUR ADVICE FOR BEWILDERED IN THE MIDWEST:
  A:  Give your friend a third chance and welcome her ba ...        43%
  B:  Email your friend demanding an explanation, and if ...        32%
  C:  Tell your friend to never write to you again        26%
Total Votes: 742


Dear Anyone,

Because of harmful sexual experiences when I was very young, I had trouble dating guys in high school, so I began dating girls. I don't know if it was my choice of girls or my inability to let down my walls, but in the end I always saw them as little more than just a friend.

I contemplated trying my hand at dating guys again, after all I had never really given it a fair try. But I didn't feel like I could explore that side of me. To everyone who knew me I was a lesbian...and to be anything other than that would have stirred up too much. I found it easier to deny, deny, deny...

I am now 21 years old, and I've found "the perfect girl" (We'll call her Robin). If ever there was a perfect match it's us. We are more than just lovers, we're best friends, almost family. I've never felt closer to anyone in my life.
Because of Robin's love and acceptance I now feel as if I'm standing on solid ground. It's given me a chance to really look at myself, and my past. I'm starting to question myself...my sexuality. I'm not 100% sure that I am gay. Maybe I should date a guy to find out? She has said that I need to do what I need to do and she understands my situation. She says we will always be, at the very least, best friends. But I know that if I explore the possibilities it's going to hurt her no matter what happens. I don't want to loose Robin...but I don't want to live the rest of my life with her, wondering if I'm where I'm supposed to be.

All Grown Up and Ready to Know

WHAT'S YOUR ADVICE?

Vote for Option A   
A:  Stick with Robin. Love is hard to find and you're lucky to have found it.
Vote for Option B   
B:  Take a break and seek the truth. If she loves you she will always be there for you.
Vote for Option C   
C:  Let go and ride it out. Whatever is meant to be, will be.

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