I've been "going out" with this boy for two months. Our relationship was GREAT in the beginning. We said "I love you" very soon into the relationship and he even told me that he thinks I am his soul mate and wants to get married right out of high school. This sounded GREAT to me in the beginning and I was gung ho for it. Now I'm having second thoughts. I don't want to plan out my life in high school. There's a whole life ahead of me! Also I've been stressed a lot and for the past week and a half I've been telling my friends that I might want to break up. They told me "no girl he's perfect for you, you'll regret it, etc etc." But that's just it, how am I going to learn all the lessons in life if I'm committed now? How boring would that be? I just couldn't imagine hurting him. But he is so "in love" as his says. He tells me "I've never had a girlfriend like this" and "I thank God I have a girlfriend like you." It's like he's sprung and I KNOW he's for real, but I don't think I feel like that anymore. Everyone says "just tell him how you feel" but really it isn't that easy. He really is a great friend but I know it would sound "cliche" if I told him I just wanted to be friends. He would be CRUSHED and I don't know if he'd ever talk to me after that.
Is it wrong for me to want to break up? Could this just be a slump I'm going through or commitment problems? I just love being independent and I don't know if I'm ready for a boyfriend--especially one as serious as this.
i dont want to break his heart. .