I have just started seeing someone (the first man I have actually liked in, oh, YEARS), and we're hitting it off quite well. I can see it developing into something, and he's expressed so too. The catch: in 2 weeks he's going on a previously planned 6 day cruise with an allegedly-former friend with bennies (AKA friend-with-benefits). He claims it's a platonic vacation but admits to some gray-areas. Because this is so fresh and not exactly a 'relationship' yet, I feel like I can handle this. That being said, I can't see 'moving forward' (i.e., becoming intimate) with him before the cruise because I think it would make me too vulnerable. I'm bummed because this is the first man I have even invited to my apartment in almost a year. What's a gal to do with this info, when she's finally found someone she can be with?