My girlfriend has a 33 year old son not mine, who has been basically unemployed in the 14 years we have been together in relationship. In the fourteen years he has been married, divorced and has 4 children.
He has lived with us off and on until I just couldn't take it anymore. He has never paid rent or brought groceries, soap, toilet paper in all the times he stayed in our house. He has used abusive language towards me. My problem is that every time he visits its mostly unannounced, and because I don't get excited when he shows up me and my girlfriend eventually wind up in some kind of argument. I think though it may not be about him its in some way because of him. By the way I am a woman also.
At my wits end!