My mother passed away in September, 2004. I have had a hard time with it. Holidays and birthdays are particularly hard. On Mothers Day, my 25 year-old niece started making nasty comments about me having a "bad day" missing my mother on Mothers Day, saying, "What's the big deal? You wouldn't spend the whole day with her anyway." I let her know I heard her nasty comment. Then my brother asked me if I would go to her grave with him. My niece said, "Is she there, is she not there?" This was said with attitude.
She always seemed to have great respect for her Nana when she was alive. Why would it go away now that she is dead? I've let the comments slide so far, but on Saturday the whole family will be together to celebrate my sister's 50th birthday. Should I take advantage of this opportunity to let my niece have it and tell her that her disrespect not only for me but for her Nana (my mother) was inappropriate? I don't want to do this over the phone and e-mail can be so misunderstood.