OUR ADVICE FOR PROUD AND DEPENDENT IN FLORIDA:

	A:	Let him buy the new car and wait a few more years ...		35%
	B:	The person who's making the smarter decision gets ...		24%
	C:	Get a divorce. Decisions should be made together, ...		20%
	D:	Put the kids in daycare and work full time. Maybe ...		21%
Total Votes: 886

Dear Anyone,

I have a pretty universal problem, I think. I really find my in-laws annoying. My father-in-law has these set views, and having a conversation with him is more like listening to a sermon delivered by a monk from the Dark Ages. My mother-in-law is bossy, and likes to offer her unwelcome opinions about how my wife and I can improve our lives--from cleaning the kitchen to upgrading our educational credentials. My blood pressure rises every time I see them, but I'm running out of excuses to avoid them. I've talked to my wife about my feelings, and she understands, but she thinks I should just grin and bear it. My folks have both passed away, so she's never dealt with in-laws and I don't think she has a reference point. What should I do?

Enough of the Fokkers in Queens

WHAT'S YOUR ADVICE?

	A:	Your wife's right. Grin and bear it, because you married into the family, not just your wife.
	B:	Press your case with your wife. She's the one in the middle, so it's really her job to make sure that all the important people in her life get along.
	C:	Keep making excuses. Preserving your peace of mind is worth a little grumbling from the in-laws.
	D:	Confront your in-laws yourself. If you let them walk all over you, they'll never change.

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