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OUR ADVICE FOR LEAST AMONG GENIUSES IN CALIFORNIA:
  A:  Stop being a cry-baby. All parents push their kids ...        29%
  B:  You have every right to be mad. Your parents sound ...        24%
  C:          23%
  D:          23%
Total Votes: 1946

Dear Anyone,

I have known my husband for seven years. We have been married since 2003. At first I thought my in-laws were peculiarly cold people with little or no communication skills, but I'm now well aware that this "communication problem" only occurs with me. It's very difficult because they aren't directly rude or nasty to me. Instead they don't speak at all, or act like they don't hear me when I speak to them. If they must acknowledge me they're short and expressionless, and never smile. I've watched them turn from me and address other people in a talkative and friendly way. It really hurts my feelings.

My husband's aware of the problem and has confronted them outside my presence, but they deny everything and say we're paranoid. He really didn't have much of a relationship with his parents until I encouraged one. Ironically, I'm blamed for him not spending enough time with them, and any other problem that comes along. We're ready to cut all ties, but my family says that would be unfair. What should I do?

Getting the Cold Shoulder in Calgary

WHAT'S YOUR ADVICE?

Vote for Option A   
A:  Walk away now. Your in-laws need to learn that relationships that are not nurtured are meant to wither and die.
Vote for Option B   
B:  
Vote for Option C   
C:  Call your mother-in-law and ask her to have lunch with you. Maybe a little one-to-one conversation will break the ice.
Vote for Option D   
D:  

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