Dear Anyone,
I have been married for more than 10 years. My wife got pregnant during an affair she had about 5 years ago. We are also legal guardian's for a teen ager. I love the children. My relationship with my wife has not been the same since. I have tried to hang in there for the children and because I am trying to honor my promise of marriage. We fight often. My wife is very needy and I feel there is no way I can give her what she really needs emotionally. I think this unfulfilled need led to her affair.
Over time I have developed an emotional attachment to a co-worker. I believe I am actually in love with her, and have been for more than a year. I have told my co-worker of my attraction, and she says that she loves me also but only as a friend. She tells me about the other men she has seen. Sometimes she goes into more detail than I want.
Each time she does it hurts me because of the way I feel for her. I try and play it off, but it hurts. I try and just be friends with the co-worker, the romantic thoughts never leave for long. She is so beautiful! (I wish I felt this for my wife.)
I feel I have created the situation myself. I feel like a foolish idiot, and now I can't sleep at night. I need advice on both relationships.
Sad and confused.