Dear Anyone,
First, I want to thank you for taking your time to answer my question.
I became friends with a former student after the course she was taking, ended. I am 38, she is 28. For the first two months, we were only friends. After that, for the next two months, we started having a romantic relationship. Those four months, were some of the best I have had in a long, long time. We got along real well, talked for hours,communicated several times a day, we laugh, we joked, we had some real passionate sex.
About 3 weeks ago, we got into an argument about a wedding invitation. She had promised to go with me to the wedding about a month prior. Two weeks before the wedding, I asked again, and she reconfirmed. Two days before the wedding, she started saying that she may not be able to go because of time issues. No matter how I tried to accommodate her, she kept making excuses for not being able to go. Finally, I did something childish. I got real upset and hung up the phone.
One thing you must understand is that she is going through a lot with her ex-husband. He is an alcoholic, a bad father, does not provide child care, and threatens her sometimes about her not dating other people. She was married to him for 5 years and has a 5 year old child.
I called her about 4 hours later after I had hung up the phone to apologize and she said that after doing some thinking, she decided that she only wanted to be friends. She said that she realized that she was not ready for a true relationship and that she first needed to get her life in order before dating anyone, and that she was not sure what she wanted in a relationship. She said that she did love me, wanted me and liked me as a man but that she was not ready.
For two days we did not talk and after that, we talked and decided to be friends. After about a week, we went out to dinner and after that dancing. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex. She spend the night in my house, helped me pack because I was going on a business trip, and than took her home.
During my 2 week trip, we emailed each other about 3 times just to say hello. Upon my return, she called me to welcome me back, but she said that she kind of regretted us having sex before I left on my trip, because she wanted to take things real slow and was not ready for a relationship.
After that, for the two week or so, we have kept in touch. She either calls me or texts me, and I do the same. We have good conversations and have gone out a couple of times to dinner.
I am don't know what to do
