Dear Anyone,
I am a divorced 27 year old woman and my boyfriend is 31. We have been together for about 6 months, and I am very much in love with him. But I am used to extremely unstable and tumultuous relationships so I am just not sure what I should expect from him. He is well adjusted, responsible and mature. He is the strong silent type of guy and it strikes me very much as withdrawn, he's not sappy or jealous but he can be affectionate when the time is right and he is generally pretty generous with me. But, he spends a lot of time with the guys, probably about half the week with me and the other half with the boys (his brothers) one of which is married. I know he is trustworthy and he genuinely wants me around him often and he tells me he misses me when we haven't seen each other in a few days. I feel as though I am confusing his independence for indifference due to my past relationships. I feel that I am so accustomed to possessiveness and jealousy, which I view as love, and his lack of those traits means he doesn't love me. Please help me. Is he just emotionally mature or does he really not care?
Mystified in Maryland
