Dear Anyone - family Advice  
 
 

 

OUR ADVICE FOR LESS IS MORE IN WEST VANCOUVER:
  A:          30%
  B:  Spoiling your child a little is fine, but keep the ...        20%
  C:          23%
  D:          26%
Total Votes: 1983

Dear Anyone,

My dad has always been my life. When I was six months old, my parents were divorced. Even though my mother got custody of me, she decided that drugs and random men were more important and left me at my grandmother's house one morning. To make a long story short, my mother and I have never had the best of relationship. When she finally did come back into my life when I was 8, she brought along her drug-dealing boyfriend, who physically, mentally and sexually abused me until the police stepped in. Ever since then, I have lived with my father.

A week ago, I got a phone call from my grandmother. She said she didn't want to call me, but she didn't know what else to do. She told me that my father was in jail and she couldn't figure out any charges or anything. Because I work as a police officer, I used my knowledge to discover what had happened. Turns out my father was arrested for possession of a controlled substance, DUI and possession of controlled substance paraphernalia. I was outraged to say the least.

I haven't spoken to my father since the incident (over a week ago) and he continues to call me to apologize, but I refuse to answer the phone. I feel very betrayed by my father and cannot believe how after so many years of "Me and Him" together he could hurt me like this, especially since he knew what my mother did to me growing up. Part of me wants to forgive him and help him out, but another part of me is so angry and hurt that I never want to speak with him again.

Betrayed by father

WHAT'S YOUR ADVICE?

Vote for Option A   
A:  Forgive and forget... your father loves you no matter what. Plus you will never get closure if you close him out of your life.
Vote for Option B   
B:  Don't speak to you father again. He should never have put your love for him, needless to say your career, in jeopardy.
Vote for Option C   
C:  Contact him and tell him that you love him, but cannot speak with him at the moment. Contact him again when you have calmed down.

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