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OUR ADVICE FOR FEELING UNCOMFORTABLE IN NORTH VANCOUVER:
  A:          28%
  B:  Be afraid. Be very afraid. Even emotional intimacy ...        23%
  C:  Your wife should be your closest ally. Gently brin ...        27%
  D:  Buy your buddy a membership for an online personal ...        23%
Total Votes: 2189

Dear Anyone,

I am the mother of two children. My dilemma is regarding my 15 year old son. This summer he'll have lived with his dad for two years. Before that, his dad only came around to look good as a father in front of other people and he certainly didn't care enough to pay child support even when we had nothing to eat. Now my ex has a live-in girlfriend and three young children along with my son. My ex hates me with every pore of his being and has turned my son to the same impression of me. When I call there is no guarantee that they will tell my son that I called. Plus they screen the calls. The last time I saw him was two months ago and it was horrible. The girlfriend screamed and yelled at me what a horrible mother I was and how they were tired of me. My son backed them up even to the point of lying about me. Since then I have sent a card and a note once a month but I find it beyond difficult to have time with my son (they refuse to leave the area when I have time with my son) and he seems to believe what they say about me however untrue it is. As a mother I ache horribly to see my son or pick up the phone to talk to him but they are always there. I'm unsure if I am doing the right thing. Please give me your advice.

A torn mom who loves and misses her son

WHAT'S YOUR ADVICE?

Vote for Option A   
A:  However hard it may be, show up to visit your son on a regular basis.
Vote for Option B   
B:  Keep calling regularly, eventually you may be able to build on that.
Vote for Option C   
C:  Don't do anything. Your son will contact you when he's ready.

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