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Dear Anyone,

I work directly under a supervisor that I used to like quite a bit. We used to go out for coffee and lunches together, and she was positive with her feedback about my work. Recently, however, I’ve noticed when we’re in meetings or out to lunch with HER superiors, she likes to make snide remarks about me, or tell stories that embarrass me. I’m confused because she sends good reports about my work to her bosses, but in social settings she makes me look dumb, and certainly not like “promotion material.” Maybe I just don’t get her sense of humor, and maybe a little self-deprecation will win me points. But I feel I should be putting my best foot forward with the big bosses, and my supervisor really isn’t helping. Am I being oversensitive, or am I being not-so-subtly dissed?

Getting Mixed Messages in Tampa

WHAT'S YOUR ADVICE?

	A:	Always face a problem head on. Talk to your supervisor and tell her that you feel embarrassed by her comments about you around others.
	B:	Don’t say anything to your supervisor. Just by-pass her entirely by scheduling lunches with the big bosses without her.
	C:	Her put downs are an invitation to mock her, so go with it. She wants to show the bosses you two are friends with some cheeky banter.
	D:	You’re being oversensitive. If the written reports are good, what are you losing sleep over?

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