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Canadian author Lynn Coady has an opinion. This is her edgy but hilarious online advice column exclusive to DearAnyone.com.

Thursday, June 30, 2005

Vol. 1(3) - Sexual Tensions

Coady of Conduct:

How can one tell if one really loves someone and want to marry that person? Is it normal for the sexual tension to ease up and become almost non-existent? What if it gets to the point of fantasizing about other people in one's life? If this does happen, what is the best thing to do?

Needs Excitement

You know you really love someone when at least once a day you find yourself feeling grateful for his or her presence--the fact that you have this person in your life. You should feel like you can't believe your luck and, if you're a religious type, you'll have an impulse to thank god. Now I'm not saying you go around all day with a stupid, smeary look on your face, mentally oohing and ahhing. I'm just saying that every so often you should be looking at this person and thinking, approximately, "Cha-ching!"

After a certain amount of time has passed, it's normal for "sexual tension to ease up," but it should never go away completely, and you should never feel like you're groping for that giddy little moment of "cha-ching!" That "cha-ching" means gratitude, and contentment. It means you know you've done well for yourself--undeservedly well--and you could not possibly do any better.

None of this sound familiar? Then you're in what I call a "because it's there" relationship. A cat and a TV set serve precisely the same purpose--staving off loneliness--without that pesky expectation of occasional, joyless sex. Get out, if this is you, and get moving.