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Canadian author Lynn Coady has an opinion. This is her edgy but hilarious online advice column exclusive to DearAnyone.com.
Thursday, July 28, 2005
Coady of Conduct:
I've known "Denise" for two years. We met through friends, and I've socialized with her at various parties. She recently moved into my neighborhood, and I've bumped into her a couple of times and we've chatted. She's intelligent, attractive and kind. I'm thinking of asking her out, but there's just one thing holding me back: she's in a wheelchair. She's paralyzed from the waist down from a skiing accident. She's single, and I sense some chemistry between us, but I'm gun-shy. I want a family one day, and I don't know if she can have children. Also, my parents are stupidly conservative, and I worry they'd disapprove and be unwelcoming towards Denise. The thought of taking care of her in certain situations doesn't phase me, but I'd be devastated if we started dating and I found out she couldn't have kids or my parents rejected her. So, should I take the plunge anyway?Stressing Out in VancouverStep One on the Road To Adulthood--learn to disregard your parents' opinions. I know this is hard, they're your parents, you love them, you want them in your life, but they too are adults and it's their job to accept whatever informed, carefully- considered decisions you--a fellow adult--make. If they disapprove and are unwelcoming of such a honey as Denise, the problem is theirs to overcome.Step Two: Don't be such a wuss all your life. Embroidered-pillow version: Seize the Day. Eighties' rawk version: Good lovin' is hard to find. Lord Byron version: There is no instinct like that of the heart. Take your pick and run with it.
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