HOW IT WORKS:

1. Read the letter below asking for advice about family.
2. Click on a house to give your advice.
3. View the voting results in this box. Repeat.

Dear Anyone,

I have a 17 year-old daughter who is obsessed with becoming a singer. I’ve paid for singing lessons for the last three years, but the sad reality is that my daughter doesn’t have the talent to be a professional singer. I want her to concentrate on her studies, but she seems so fixated with singing (and watching MTV, reading music magazines, etc.) that she doesn’t seem to have time to do anything else. I want to be supportive, but I also want to be realistic. If her singing career doesn’t work out, AND she gets lousy grades in senior year in high school, then her career prospects are really going to be in trouble. I’m thinking about telling her what I really think – that she doesn’t have what it takes, and maybe even cutting off the singing lessons. Is that a good idea, or I am just setting myself up for a lifetime of resentment from my daughter?

Level-Headed Mom in Wilmington

WHAT'S YOUR ADVICE?

	A:	Tell the truth, and cut off the lessons. It’s your responsibility to steer your daughter around the pitfalls of life – including pipe dreams.
	B:	Make a deal. If your daughter keeps up her grades, she can keep the lessons. Let your daughter succeed on both fronts.
	C:	Bite your tongue. Her dreams will only die when a music professional – not mom – tells her she isn’t good enough.
	D:	Encourage your daughter to sing. Even lousy singers with a one-hit wonder can make scads of money.

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