Dear Anyone,
My husband has, in my humble opinion, a good-for-nothing brother named “Vince.” My husband and I both work to make ends meet, and we have three kids. We worked hard and saved up to buy a nice house – one that’s even big enough to have a guest room. We love company, and often invite friends from out of town to stay with us. The problem is that over the last few years, Vince has been spending weeks or months at a time in our guest bedroom. He never seems to be able to hold down a job, and whenever he’s out of work and tight on money, he stays at our place. On top of that, he eats all our food without ever offering to buy any groceries, and he doesn’t help with the chores except taking out the trash on the odd occasion.
If once in a while my husband and I came home from work exhausted at 6 o’clock to find Vince had cooked dinner, I’d be happier to have him around. But I come home, find him lounging on the couch waiting for us to cook dinner, and inside I’m going ballistic! Vince is 35! Even the kids think he’s lazy. I’ve told my husband that he needs to say something to his brother along the lines of “shape up or ship out,” but my husband says that he can’t throw his brother out on the street. The worst part is that sometimes I can’t invite guests to visit us since Vince is monopolizing the guest bedroom. What should I do?
Fed Up with Vince in Bakersfield
